Kids come first.

	Find appropriate and dependable child care based  on your children’s ages and needs.  Backup care  eases stress in emergency situations.
	Plan family activities with your children.  Camping trips, picnics and outings to the zoo are easy on the budget and fun for everyone.
	Try to communicate one-on-one with each child on a daily basis.  Ask questions and listen well.
	Enlist your children’s help in making decisions.  Designating everyone’s chores and responsibilities using a chart helps to eliminate confusion and keep the household running smoothly.
	Provide consistent and appropriate discipline that is fair and never physically abusive.
	When children ask about the other parent, talk to them calmly and openly in an age-appropriate manner.

But you have needs, too.

	Strong and volatile emotions are normal after a separation or loss.  Don’t ignore your feelings.  Talk to someone whom you trust.
	Pay attention to your physical health.  Eat well, exercise regularly, and get plenty of rest.
	Manage your time to minimize stress.  Get the kids to help with household chores.  Cook and freeze meals in batches.
	Develop and maintain a social life for yourself.  Reassure your children that your love for them has not changed, but you need to establish close relationships with other adults.

Remember that to care for yourself is to care for others.
Focus on the positive things you do and avoid feelings of guilt or inadequacy.