Children with high self-esteem are more likely to become confident and responsible adults. The following parenting tips can help you instill a positive self-image in your child.

Instill an "I can" attitude.

	Acknowledge and praise your child's unique strengths and abilities.
	Don't compare your child to other children.
	Provide your child with opportunities to experience success by giving age-appropriate responsibilities.
	Have realistic expectations.  If your child falls short, let him/her know that your love has not changed.
	Don't try to solve your child's problems.  Him him/her solve them on their own by listening and discussing possible solutions.

Everyone needs a good ear to bend.

	Listen actively, not passively.  Seek your child's opinion.  Encourage children to express their own thoughts and feelings.
	Avoid lecturing or always trying to interpret what your child is "really" thinking or feeling.  In most cases, simply being there and showing that you care are enough.
	Set aside special time to be with your child and give him/her your full attention.

Clear-cut rules can prevent troublesome behaviors.

	Set clear rules.  Make sure your child understands them as well as the consequences for breaking them.
	Though rules should be consistent, they should also be flexible enough to allow for special situations or circumstances.
	When rules are broken, remain calm.  Address the problem, present the consequences and follow through with discipline and discussion.
	Criticize the behavior, not the person.
	Avoid physical discipline such as spanking.  Most experts agree with such disciplinary measures are not effective.

You're on stage.

	Model self-esteem by being confident in the decisions you make.
	Acknowledge your mistakes and take appropriate steps to correct them.
	Show your child that you can accept your imperfections and still like yourself.